Happiness is your choice.

Lately I have across people who are sad and unhappy , this disturbs me.  I have been in that situation, I have been to hell and back and managed to find a solution and peace in my heart.

I have lived through an abusive childhood,  have been sexually abused as a child and as an adult, have lost a baby half way through the pregnancy, have had two mentally abusive marriages, also have lifelong medical issues.

I had four children.  They are all in their 40’s now. Two them have chosen to cut me out of their lives because I asked for respect.

I will not allow the past abuse to continue to hurt or control me. If thoughts do enter my mind that are negative I distract myself and push the thoughts away.  If I was to dwell on the negative I would be allowing the abusive person/people to keep controlling me.

Today I am happy and contented.

I felt compelled to share …..there is a solution and happiness is your choice.

I do understand that not everyone can experience happiness. I specifically give a mention to people who have Clinical Depression.  Blessings to them and also to the wonderful mental health teams that do their best to help.

I know that contentment and happiness is not easy for everyone, it is tough and hard to achieve and may not be achievable for some. I struggled for years to achieve what I have today.

Wishing everyone happiness in your life.



PS:  There is more that I will add , all this happened in my last place of employment.

I was repeatedly bullied at work by a male nurse and he got away with it.

I was threatened several times by patients that were in my care, they too got away with it.

I jarred my back at work while pushing a heavy trolley.  I already had a scoliosis of my spine  – the injury made it even worse. The specialist recommended that I stop work full-time or end up in a wheel chair for the rest of my life.  Management of the hospital gave me no support.  My career was now over.

For months I sat at home feeling sorry for myself and feeling miserable.  After a lot of hard work on myself I managed to crawl out of the black hole that I was in.

I had to accept what had happened to me, move on and make something positive out of a negative. I am so glad I did..


It’s a matter of choice – the light at the end of the tunnel / black hole.

light at end of tunnel


33 thoughts on “Happiness is your choice.

  1. Aside from clinical depression, there’s a lot that can be done to change your mindset and improve your wellbeing to the point of being happy and choosing to be happy. You’re quite the inspiration, what a positive post! Have a lovely week ahead 🙂
    Caz xx

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    1. Hi Caz thanks for your kind comments. I have updated my blog to give a special mention for people who have clinical depression. I did work in mental health and should have acknowledged that. Wishing you a happy week ahead.
      Ally xx 🙂

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      1. I hope I didn’t come across as rude by mentioning it (definitely wasn’t my intention), I just thought it should be said, so I appreciate you updating it to reflect clinical depression. Aside from that, the notion of choosing to be happy is a very empowering one, and it reminds us we have control of our responses to life, we can be more proactive, and we can change our perspectives. I’ve started following you now so I’ll look forward to catching up & reading more soon! 🙂
        Caz xx

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    1. That is so true. I used to sit here and feel sorry for myself and all it did was make me more miserable and depressed. With a lot of hard work on myself I have managed to move myself out of the black hole. Cheers 🙂

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  2. So true, we work at so many other things in life, like our weight, a house, relationships and yet when it comes to negative feelings, so many seem to be just giving in to them…..I at one time also did that, but I’ve found that it is somewhat of a choice which I now refuse to indulge in. There are so many scriptures that God has given us to hold on to, and that’s where a big part of my peace comes from.

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  3. You get knocked down, what choice do you have? Get back up or lay down and fade away. A famous musician once said, “I’d rather burn out than fade away.” Don’t fade away, go out in a blaze! Great post friend.

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  4. A truly inspiring post, Ally. Wonderful stuff. It’s true what they say – it’s always darkest before the dawn. I admire you greatly for persevering through the darkness and emerging in the light. Your post should be printed by the government and posted on every billboard in the country. Have a lovely day.

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