Lately I have across people who are sad and unhappy , this disturbs me. I have been in that situation, I have been to hell and back and managed to find a solution and peace in my heart.
I have lived through an abusive childhood, have been sexually abused as a child and as an adult, have lost a baby half way through the pregnancy, have had two mentally abusive marriages, also have lifelong medical issues.
I had four children. They are all in their 40’s now. Two them have chosen to cut me out of their lives because I asked for respect.
I will not allow the past abuse to continue to hurt or control me. If thoughts do enter my mind that are negative I distract myself and push the thoughts away. If I was to dwell on the negative I would be allowing the abusive person/people to keep controlling me.
Today I am happy and contented.
I felt compelled to share …..there is a solution and happiness is your choice.
I do understand that not everyone can experience happiness. I specifically give a mention to people who have Clinical Depression. Blessings to them and also to the wonderful mental health teams that do their best to help.
I know that contentment and happiness is not easy for everyone, it is tough and hard to achieve and may not be achievable for some. I struggled for years to achieve what I have today.
Wishing everyone happiness in your life.
PS: There is more that I will add , all this happened in my last place of employment.
I was repeatedly bullied at work by a male nurse and he got away with it.
I was threatened several times by patients that were in my care, they too got away with it.
I jarred my back at work while pushing a heavy trolley. I already had a scoliosis of my spine – the injury made it even worse. The specialist recommended that I stop work full-time or end up in a wheel chair for the rest of my life. Management of the hospital gave me no support. My career was now over.
For months I sat at home feeling sorry for myself and feeling miserable. After a lot of hard work on myself I managed to crawl out of the black hole that I was in.
I had to accept what had happened to me, move on and make something positive out of a negative. I am so glad I did..
It’s a matter of choice – the light at the end of the tunnel / black hole.